5 Simple Steps to Increase Your Likeability

‘Your likeability reflects your capacity to consistently produce positive emotional experiences in the lives of other people – room in your life for other people’s feelings, room in your life for other people’s success.’

 - Tim Sanders 

5 Simply Steps to Increase Your Likeability

5 Simply Steps to Increase Your Likeability

One of the key distinguishing characteristics that may be holding you back in business and in life is how likeable you are as a person. Likeability literally translated is, ‘the ability to find a common connection.’ By practicing these Five Simple Steps below you can increase your likeability exponentially…

  1. See the Individual

Appreciate the person in front of you. Whether it’s a coworker, client or customer they are unique and have value. It sounds a bit too simplistic, but so many times in business and life people are viewed as objects. Get to know them and connect personally. No two people are alike and when you really see them as an individual it will transform the quality and depth of your relationship.

  1. Ask Good Questions

Questions are the lifeblood of any conversation. If you want to increase your likeability factor, make the conversation about the person in front of you. Stay focused on the conversation, ask open-ended questions, don’t interrupt them and leverage the power of silence. Asking good questions is an art, but with practice you will add value and increase the connection with others.

  1. Be Vulnerable

Being vulnerable is a sure sign that you’re comfortable in your own skin. When you open up to others in appropriate ways you increase the likelihood of a meaningful connection. When you make a mistake own up to it, apologize and move forward. You can instantly turn a negative situation into a positive encounter by owning up to your part, and others are less like to resent you or find fault if you’re proactively taking the higher road.

  1. Invite, Involve and Invest

One of the best ways to find common ground is to create shared experiences. When you bring people along for the journey you engender their support and increase their enthusiasm for your latest cause or project. ‘We’ always trumps ‘me’ in business and in life, because this life is about relationships. When you genuinely involve and invest in those closest to you, you will undoubtedly turn strangers into friends, coworkers into compatriots and fans into fanatics.

  1. Say, ‘Thank You.’

Thankfulness comes from the Latin word for ‘grace.’ When you say those two magic words with meaning you will unlock gratitude in others. Gratitude is like rocket fuel for souls. When you exhibit a thankful attitude and extend this grace to others it’s truly contagious. Saying ‘thank you’ not only shows appreciation for the individual in front of you, it also pays respect to their intrinsic value and worth in your relationship.

It sounds too simple, almost too good to be true, but by applying these 5 Simple Steps you will undoubtedly get ahead in business and in life by increasing your likeability.

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Grateful,

Steve

© 2006-2014 Stephen Knox, orbitingnormal.org All Rights Reserved

7 Surefire Ways to Improve Your Business and Life

‘We make our discoveries through our mistakes: we watch one another’s success: and where there is freedom to experiment there is hope to improve.’
- Arthur Quiller-Couch

7 Surefire Ways to Improve Your Business and Life

All of us struggle and hit roadblocks in our personal and professional lives. Some of these can be avoided by adopting these simple principles below on a daily basis:
  1. Start Pursuing Your Goals

Knowing the good we ought to do and not doing it is a greater tragedy than being ignorant or oblivious in life. Goals create a target to aim for and an ideal to achieve. When we set goals we gain clarity, drive and focus to improve our business and our lives. Goal setting also enables us to keep score and track our progress.

            Momentum = mass x velocity

Momentum requires direction and magnitude – our bodies in motion towards our intended target. By choosing a goal we gain clarity on the direction we need to head, and when we move towards that goal with passion and focus we increase the momentum and likelihood of success.

  1. Stop Making Excuses

Excuses are like bellybuttons: Everybody has one and it usually stinks. Excuses are never neutral. When we do not act we actually begin to atrophy. Atrophy literally means ‘without sustenance.’ When we make excuses we starve our future. Simply put, excuses cause us to regress and only delay us from achieving the life we were created to live. When we stop making excuses we move from apathy to action. Without excuses we have no choice but to move forward and act.

  1. Start Embracing Change

To quote my wife, ‘the only constant in life is change.’ We cannot control tomorrow, let alone the next minute. What we can do is embrace our lack of control. One of the best pieces of advice regarding change is the Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Neibhur:

‘God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.’

Embracing change requires both courage and wisdom. Courage is all about heart, and wisdom is all about living life skillfully. When we embrace change we move from obsessing about what we cannot control and begin to move forward with vision and passion.

  1. Stop Wasting Time

Procrastination is where good intentions and great ideas go to die. Literally translated, procrastination means, ‘to put off until tomorrow.’ Procrastination is what separates the average masses from the great individuals, and normal companies from becoming truly influential and world changing. Delays are inevitable, but when they are self-inflicted choices we waste the most expensive commodity that we have – our time. By investing our time wisely we not only move away from the status quo, we move towards fulfillment and living a life of impact and influence.

  1. Start Playing to Your Strengths

When we play to our strengths we move from focusing on our weaknesses to genuinely making a lasting impact on the world with our natural gifts, strengths and talents. By playing to our strengths we also live a more fulfilled life. We discover purpose and passion for the work we do and the relationships we are building. Not only that, we create a leadership vacuum for others who are strong where we are weak to embrace their own giftedness and leadership skills. When we play to our strengths we give others permission to risk. By stepping up to the challenge and stepping out of our comfort zone we inspire others to follow their own unique path. This is why leadership is not what we do ‘to’ people, but what we do ‘for’ people.

  1. Stop Placing Blame

Blame literally means, ‘to speak blasphemously about the sacred.’ When we point the finger at others we destroy trust. Every business and relationship is built on trust. Blame creates unnecessary conflict and confusion. Relationships are sacred, and we should value the people involved in the process. The opposite of blame is not acceptance – it  is however a mixture of responsibility, vulnerability and accountability. When we admit our mistakes and humbly take ownership of our role in identifying the problem we can move towards creating a healthy solution.

  1. Start Asking for Help

Asking for help is not a sign of weakness; rather it is a sign of strength. None of us can go it alone. We all have unique gifts, strengths and talents that are meant to be shared with our spouses, family, friends and colleagues for the greater good. The bottom line is that we need each other. ‘We’ is ‘me’ turned upside down. When we start asking for help we include and empower others to rise to the occasion and aide us in our quest for success. Along the way we create community and a deep sense of belonging. Asking for help requires that we get over ourselves, and when we do this we end up getting ourselves over whatever obstacle or challenge we might be facing.

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Grateful,

Steve

© 2006-2014 Stephen Knox, orbitingnormal.org All Rights Reserved

Discover the ‘i’ in Genius

‘Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.’

― Howard Thurman

Discovering the 'i' in Genius

Discovering the ‘i’ in Genius

Up until the mid-14th century, the word genius meant ‘a guardian spirit,’ due to the belief that an individual’s giftedness was the result of some kind of supernatural assistance or help.  It was not until the 17th century that an individual with extraordinary and innate talent was said to be a genius.

The etymology of genius comes from the word ‘to beget’ or ‘produce.’

Individual genius is a topic that most of us shy away from. Yet, within each of us is the innate ability to live a life and vocation that produces beauty, truth and goodness.

Maybe, it’s because we are taught from an early age to be ‘well rounded’ and to work on our weaknesses. Maybe, it’s because we bought into the idea of being normal and average. Maybe the status quo is a lot safer than making our dreams a reality.

Studies show that we will have our greatest impact in business and in life when we focus on developing and leveraging our individual genius.

The Gallup organization has been measuring strengths since the late 90s. Gallup has polled over 25 million workers from 189 different countries and discovered that only 2 in 10 workers are using their innate genius on any given day.

80% of us do not have the opportunity to leverage our best in the work we do.

The same research revealed that individuals and companies who focused on developing and leveraging their strengths (individual Genius) are 6 times more likely to be engaged, 12.5% more productive and almost 10% more profitable.

So the question begging to be answered…

What is your individual Genius?

Or, as I like to ask my clients…

What makes you come alive?

StrengthsFinder, the strengths assessment tool designed by Gallup, has ignited a global conversation and helped millions of people discover their top 5 strengths. Their research shows that we are at our best when we are able to leverage our strengths – the combination of knowledge, skills and innate talent - at which we naturally excel in our personal and professional lives.

If you’re curious about discovering your individual Genius, contact us today to journey with you in discovering, developing and unleashing your innate gifts, talents and abilities. 

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Be honest, be you.

Steve

 

© 2006-2014 Stephen Knox, orbitingnormal.org All Rights Reserved

 

12 Tips for Increasing Your Productivity

‘Amateurs sit and wait for inspiration, the rest of us just get up and go to work.’

― Stephen King, On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft

12 Tips for Increasing Your Productivity

12 Tips for Increasing Your Productivity

 Here are my top 12 Tips for Increasing Your Productivity:

  1. Prepare – Before you leave the office, write down the three most important items you need to do tomorrow. Sticky notes are great; make sure you place the note somewhere visible to start your day productively.
  2. Remove – Get rid of any obstacles or distractions that steal your attention or interrupt your ability to focus. Rearrange your work space to maximize your ability to get tasks done.
  3. Organize – Organizing can vary depending on how you’re wired, but you can benefit from creating a system for structuring your day around your top 3 critical tasks or projects each day. Dashboards tools are great for this.
  4. Discover – Find and stick with a pattern for your week to maximize work flow. For example:
    • Mondays  are client-focused with engagement, follow-up and retention.
    • Tuesdays are a research day for me about the latest trends and research in my industry.
    • Wednesdays are for writing, correspondence and database management.
    • Thursdays and Fridays are for engaging with current and prospective clients.
  1. Under-Promise – Know your limits. Say ‘Yes’ to the right opportunities, and ‘No’ to any engagements that may lead you away from being productive around your core business.
  2. Capitalize  - Use your ‘down-time’ effectively. Keep a short list of future projects that you can focus on. If a meeting is cancelled or a flight is delayed, break out your laptop or journal and invest that time wisely on work that is meaningful.
  3. Think – Having time to digest what you’re working on and whether it’s headed in the right direction is crucial. An old mentor of mine would always say: ‘Divert Daily. Withdraw Weekly. And, Miss out Monthly.’ When you take the time to retreat you can actually advance more productively.
  4. Involve – Bring people along to your meetings, events and lunches. Intentionally involving employees and clients in your everyday rhythms of life can pay off big time when it comes to productivity.
  5. Vacation – It sounds counter-intuitive, but one of the best ways to increase your productivity is to take a vacation. When your personal battery is recharged you’re more effective and engaged on the job.
  6. Invest – Technology can be a blessing and a curse, more times than not there’s a resource or ap that can make your life simpler. Take the time to invest the time, energy, and money to research and purchase these time-saving tools.
  7. Track – You cannot manage what you cannot measure, this is critical for leading yourself well. Track your progress and what tasks and activities give you energy and which ones you can give away to others. Evaluation is the best method for ensuring you stay productive.
  8. You – Self-awareness is critical when it comes to productivity. Understanding your temperament, strengths and preference for working can increase your productivity exponentially. One-size does not fit all, so be true to how you’re wired to lead and manage.

Living a productive life is a matter of choice, and daily discipline. Start living the life you were created to live today by leveraging these 12 Tips for Increasing Your Productivity. 

 

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